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Navy wife, mom, and all around chaos

Pregnancy 

(Image is of the pup wrapped around my belly)

It’s been a long time since I’ve sat down to write. Pregnancy, work, being a mom, and being a wife all take up so much of me that I find it hard to find anytime for me. But I need to return to writing, my outlet. 

So I am now 31 weeks pregnant, something I hadn’t mentioned here that I remember. It hasn’t been a smooth and easy 31 weeks. Mini-me has been super amazing through this huge change! The husband has been pretty great about the baby thing. He lays down and talks the little one, he reads his books, his eyes light up when she kicks him. The giant fat dog has staked a claim on my belly, it is his all time favorite place to be. He will wrap his body around my belly and lay his head on top of it. Little ones favorite person to kick is Jax the fat dog. 

Things change so quickly. The happiness in our world is overwhelming and I’m grateful. 

Work

There is something strangely motivating about sitting at work. I have completed all of my tasks an have realized I’ve fallen behind on a personal goals. I haven’t been writing! It’s January 20th I should have like 8 or 9 posts completed and published, instead I have the one that is taunting me about setting a goal only to fail the next day. 

Well here’s  to work and achieving my goal. I will be piecing posts together for the rest of the day for me to finish throughout the week. I am resetting my goal, starting today I will write as often as possible, I will post as close to three times a week as I possibly can. And I will do my best not to let myself down. 

Now I’m off to earn my paycheck and continue to write every day. 

New years challenge 

I’m challenging myself to write at least four times each week. That shouldn’t be overwhelming or too much, but it seems daunting. I mean finding a topic, putting together an articulated post, and writing it all the way to the end? Overwhelming! 8 have had many posts that went unfinished until I deleted them because they were no longer relevant. 

So today I’m going to start with today. One day at a time until I don’t even think twice about it. One post at a time until it becomes a habit. 

Let the effort and the challenge begin!

East coast vs West coast

(Image is a map of the United States and was taken off of pinterest from a user named how does she, the website is mrprintables.com)

East Coast

Mexican Food sucks. I mean somewhere there might be a great restaurant but I haven’t found anything or heard of anything. And everyone I ask they lead me to not very authentic Mexican sadly. 

Everything is historic or claims to be historic. 

There are families that pride themselves on being old blood. 

Everywhere you go there is history or a battlefield. There are monuments to people and to either the revolutionary war or the civil war everywhere. 

The winter is way colder here!

They call liquor stores package stores. And at least in this area you can only buy liquor at certain times during the week and limited times during Sunday. I thought I left the bible belt behind but I guess not. Also they have a minimum price for liquor, they have to charge above a certain price by law because that’s not crazy. 

New England area really knows how to make a delicious pizza!! Like they win the pizza game! Lol

There are castles, many castles on the East coast. 

Victorian homes are a thing and man does that style of home hold my heart! It’s my dream home only because I want a turret! Lol!

You literally get all four seasons! You get the cold winters, the warm spring, the hot summer, and the cooler fall. It’s strange to me and beautiful too! 

West Coast 

Mexican food is available, lol!

There’s history but not the type you learn about in an American history class. There’s awesome old railroads and the occasional old WW2 Forts, but no civil war battle fields or revolutionary war history. 

There are hundreds of Indian reservations on the western half of the country, over here not so much. 

In Western Washington specifically, fall isn’t really a thing. I mean the leaves change and fall down of course but there aren’t as many deciduous tress (leaf trees). 

The pizza in most places is not nearly as good on the west coast, I mean there’s good places but overall it falls short. 

COFFEE!!! Oh my do I miss a great cup of coffee! Yall over here on the east coast are seriously missing out on good coffee! No dunkin donuts is not good coffee, dear lord! Starbucks is disgusting! There are NO little coffee shops where they strive to make you the best cup of coffee ever and succeed! I miss it! Lol
I miss the hidden beautiful Pacific Coast beaches that weren’t full of tourists! I have been to a few beaches off of the Atlantic but there’s always so many people and they aren’t very pretty. I mean there’s the typical sand and water but no cliffs and huge rock formations, it’s and little bland here. 

Did I miss any differences that you know of? Let me know! What’s your favorite thing about one coast or the other? 

Changes

(Image is of a tree with Christmas lights for no real reason except it’s pretty.)

It’s been a long time since I have written on here and part of it was because I was discouraged. I didn’t seem to be getting anywhere or anything new so I wasn’t sure what the point of continuing was. Another part of it was the exhaustion of working, parenting, and trying to be a functional human then failing to make time to write. Even though I’ve had plenty of ideas and a want to write I just have forgotten or pushed it until later. Well I made the choice that now is later and I’m going to write more. 

So welcome anyone who is new and thanks for sticking around if your not new. 

The mommy example

( Image is of a graphic image that says “our influence as a mother is powerful. Don’t waste it. Little eyes are watching you.” this image is not mine, I found it on pinterest.)

As a working mom, even if it is part-time,  in an area with no real family or friends finding someone to help on days that the husbands schedule and mine over lap. Knowing I work two days that my husband can’t be there for Mini-me and I have to work both of those days, its crazy and stressful. Thankfully I found a wonderful lady with a little one that is willing to work with me and watch Mini-me.

It helps that I left one of my jobs, I couldn’t handle doing both jobs and still trying to be a good mom and wife. Doing two jobs, working 50+ hours every week, it’s just impossible to be a human let alone a human with other humans depending on me. Living everyday completely exhausted and burned out wasn’t leaving much of an example for Mini-me to follow. Right now with all the changed in our life, she needs to look up to a mom who is all there with her. A mom who is working to make life better but is completely aware and capable, not exhausted and cranky. Not a mom who is stressed and running out of steam every moment of the day she isn’t at work.

So I needed to leave something left for my home life, and I needed to show an awesome example for my Mini-me. Everyday I work to do just that, show her everything a mom can do, everything a woman can do. I show her my strength and her dad can show her how awesome a career is. Of course I’m working towards having a career of my own.

So here’s to another day of pushing forward, of being a good example for the little one following my lead. May everyone leave a good example for their little ones to follow.

 

Utter exhaustion 

(Image is of the trees along my daily walk with the leaves changing colors.)

Exhaustion has many faces and many symptoms. It is the feeling in your bones that you just can’t make another move, it is that feeling in your mind that prevents cognitive thinking. For me it is almost always that feeling of being on the verge of a panic attack, the speed up heart rate and that heavy feeling in my chest. It is the inability to relax. 

Today I am exhausted, my body is fighting the remnants of a cold, my mind is fighting a migraine, and my heart is heavy from missing my family for the last two days. I have 6 more days until I get a break from work, six full work days until I have dinner with my family. Six nights my daughter goes to bed with only my husband home, six nights I miss tucking her in. It’s not the first time I’ve worked several consecutive days and missed bed times, and it won’t be the last. 

I’m proud to be a working mom, I’m proud to be able to contribute to my family’s financial well being. But I’m sad that it comes with such a cost. My hope is that by this time next year I won’t need to  miss so much, that I will be home for dinner more often than I’m away. My hope is that this stress and exhaustion will be completely worth the financial aid it brings. 

So until the day comes that this is all worth it, I will be exhausted and drained. I will enjoy the fact I get my mornings with my Mini-Me and a few minutes alone with my husband. I will find the little things to make it all worth while. 

Work

(Image is a picture of Jax being lazy, which is what I wish I could do!)

I’m not officially a manager in training at a sports store in my area. It is a wonderful opportunity, a great chance to learn and get ahead in any career feild I choose when I decided what I want to be when I grow up. I appreciate this opportunity and I am wildly excited for the chance to learn and do something new. A job with benefits I don’t really need as well as eventual paid time off and a full time schedule. But no flexibility with my hours, and a boss who can’t teach and only working night shifts.

However the manager, well he sucks. But at the job I had first the managers are awesome. They are also offering me a promotion and a raise along with better hours. I work with people I like and get along with, at a job I have fun doing. It’s not a big deal job or great wages but I fell competent when I go to work. 

So how do I choose between the great job with the list of benefits that I am not positive I can do or the job I already sure I can do and enjoy. The first job that will give the money to help support my family and get ahead but I’ll have no family time or the job I enjoy with flexible work hours and definitely have time for my family, the pay is just slightly less. 

I hate the situation and I hate having to make a choice like this. Here’s to the next month of figuring out what to do and how to do it! 

Opportunity 

(Image is of Jax with his head on the back of our couch and the rest of his body taking up half of a couch. The vet was wrong he’s still growing.)

Opportunity, what does that even mean? Well the definition is “a set of circumstances that makes it possible to do something.” To me it means a chance to do something new and exciting! Like the interview and pending job offer I just got to be a manager in a sporting goods store not very far away from home. Another opportunity I have had opened up to me in the last few days is a chance to return to school and get three certificates for the field I want to work in all part of one course and because I am a military wife there is no out-of-pocket cost. No loans to pay back, no books to pay for, no payment needed to sit the boards for national certifications! That over either is a wonderful chance to change our life and help our finances of course!

We were also talking about retirement plans (the military is putting out a new one that my husband would have the chance to switch to if he wants) and if we wanted to use the investment plan that is available. At the beginning of our conversation all I could think of was we are way to young to be deciding on retirement plans and if we want to start setting money aside for when we are old and ready to be done working. After a minute of our conversation I realized the wisdom of preparing early. I mean if we started putting aside however much now into medium to low risk investments then we would be good to retire at 60 or maybe even 65 if we aren’t investing a lot.

Growing up and making decisions that will affect our future is new to me. Yet it is super exciting to make these choices and be in a place that we have the opportunity to chose the best for our future! Or maybe be an example to our kids to on what not to do!

So now I’m off to enroll into college and take advantage of that awesome opportunity!

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